Going Back to India for Good – Tale of Two of My Friends
Most of us who leave
Both my friends D and M completed bachelors in Civil Engineering from Kerala in 1997. D got an admission for MS in structural engineering from a university in US. M meanwhile did MS in structural engineering from a college in
Let us take the life of D. My friend D came to the
Now his parents started pressurizing him to get married. All his efforts to buy some time were in vain and within three months of paying of all his debts he got engaged and married two months later. To impress his newly wed wife he bought a new luxury car, furnished his apartment with brand new stuff – as typical of American life everything on loan. Again major part of his salary was now going to repay these debts.
In couple of years his wife got pregnant and soon his two bed room apartment was not spacious enough to accommodate the visiting parents. Like any Indian out there he buys a spacious four bed room house. Now two third of his salary goes to paying the mortgage for this house and he has to meet all the other expenses with the remaining salary. Credit card companies get richer as he started using these cards to cover the expenses over and above what his salary can afford.
I talked to him a few days back and we were talking about his initial plan of going back. He was telling me that all he wants now is to pay off all the loans which he knows will take years. He bought the house when the housing market was peaking and he cannot even dream of selling that in the near future without incurring any loss. He is so preoccupied with how to make both ends meet everyday that going back to
Now my other friend M – he finished MS around the end of 2000 from
If you are in US the story of my friend D may sound very familiar to you. You may be able to see yourself somewhere in the story I was telling, right? So what is the moral of the story? Once you are in US, you are sucked into the system so much that going back to India (of course if you come here with plans to go back for good once) is really tough compared to going back from other countries. If you add children to this equation, going back from US becomes really tough.