Is it really necessary?
When I went to India last year for my wedding I visited one of my family members. They have a 11 year old daughter who is studying in 6th standard in an esteemed school in Trivandrum. I went there at around 6 pm and I was expecting her to be back from school.
But to my surprise, her father told me that she had gone for tuition. I was curious and asked him what the subject was and he told me it was Social Studies (History and Geography). He went on to explain that she has tuitions for all subjects and for Math she is being tutored at two places!! Her mother was telling me that she used to stand first in her class and now her rank is only 3rd. So they decided to give her more tuition. She wants her daughter to be "a doctor or at least an engineer" (This was the same phrase used by that girl's mother).
The girl's schedule is like this on a working day. She has tuition from 6.00 am to 8.00 am on all weekdays. Her school bus comes at 8.30 am. She is back from school at 4.30 pm and her tuition starts again at 5 pm.
At around 7.10 pm the girl comes home after tuition. Her mother immediately orders "Take bath and study".
While driving back from her house so many thoughts went through my mind. "Are her parents fair on her?", "Is it necessary to burden kids like this at a young age?", "Will this serve any desired purpose?”” Are they denied their childhood pleasures?”... My thoughts went on and on...
At this point I looked back to myself as to what a kid I was. I completed my 10th standard with 90% marks, plus two with 80% and secured a merit seat in an engineering college (those were the times when only 8 engineering colleges were there... not like today where you have engineering colleges at all bus stops). I could successfully complete my BTech, could do MS in US and now PhD.
I NEVER IN MY LIFE GOT A FIRST RANK IN ANY CLASS. In fact during my school days in Christ Nagar the highest rank I ever got was 21 in a class of 50. My range was always between 25 and 35. My parents used to ask me to "Study" but never had they expected me to get a 1st rank.
Instead of putting pressure on the kids to get a rank and come first in class, what the parents should do is help their kid see the world. The parents should help develop the overall personality of the kid. They should teach them what is right and what is wrong. They should teach them how to be compassionate to their fellow beings. They should tell them the importance and power of learning.
If the parents teach their kid the value of life, he/she will scale new heights and be successful in life. On the other hand if the only thing the parents tell their kid is "u should be an engineer or doctor", there is a very high chance of the kid ruining his future.
Parents - Teach your kids how to see the world and how to become a good human being and not how to “somehow” stand first in the class